Wednesday, November 26, 2008

My Thoughts on Same Sex Marriage

In order to address the issue of same-sex marriage it is pertinent to have a preface discussion about gender differences. Sex has deep roots, reaching far beyond what one looks at in the mirror. The purpose of sexual differentiation is plain and simple: to reproduce. Women evolved in a way conducive of attracting a mate who would invest resources in her and her children. Men evolved in order to attract a fertile mate willing to copulate with him. Differences that arose from these two different (yet overlapping) goals are commonly referred to as sexual dimorphism. These differences are not limited to physical dissimilarities, but are a dynamic mixture of cognitive ability (male spacial ability v. female verbal ability for example), personality traits, etc. Although biological factors initiate differences, socialization plays the most significant role in establishing gender roles. Homosexual marriages, or children raised with same-gender parents are taking a chance against what nature evolved to be a family. Half the picture children were intended to see during their development is absent. Although many people don’t accept Freud’s psychosexual theory of personality development including the Oedipus complex, one would be hard pressed to find somebody unwilling to acknowledge the profound impact heterosexual parents have on their children.

In Plato’s Republic, Plato argues that nepotism is responsible for divisiveness in society. This schism could be eliminated if elite men were required to produce children with women held in common, and the children produced raised by nurses leaving the parents and children ignorant to biological ties. Aristotle saw something that Plato did not. He recognized devastating side-effects this societal treatment might cause. He wrote:

Whereas in a state having women and children in common, love will be watery; and the father will certainly not say “my son,” or the son “my father.” As a little sweet wine mingled with a great deal of water is imperceptible in the mixture, so, in this sort of community, the idea of relationship which is based upon these names will be lost; there is no reason why the so-called father should care about the son, or the son about the father, or brothers about one another. Of the two qualities which chiefly inspire regard and affection-that a thing is your own and that it is your only one-neither can exist in such a state as this.1

Aristotle recognized what evolutionary psychologists call kin selection or kin altruism. Altruism, or behavior that involves self-sacrifice, appears to be inconsistent with natural selection. If natural selection favors traits that add to the overall fitness of a creature then how can behavior that reduces survival and fitness be selected? The answer is that animals and people not only have an interest in their own survival but also the survival of their genes. This idea is called inclusive fitness, the reproductive success of those individuals who share many of the same genes. In Politics, Aristotle writes, “in common with other animals and with plants, mankind have a natural desire to leave behind them an image of themselves.”2 Thomas Aquinas, who was very influential in many Christian nations construct of marriage and family, saw four major driving forces behind marriage. First, the demanding nature of child rearing for an extensive amount of time makes it difficult for mothers to raise infants by themselves. Second, fathers are much more likely to attach to their children if they know with certainty that the child caries his genes and is his own. Third, reinforcing this attachment males feel towards their children is the mutual assistance and affection he receives from his wife. Finally, sexual exchange between the father and mother helps to integrate the father into the mother-infant bond.3 Research strongly supports that children do best when raised by their two married, biological parents who have low-conflict relationships.4, 5 Dismissing the relationship between kin selection (biological parents) and marriage is adultocentric- disregarding children’s rights. Children have the right to be raised by parents in families as outlined in the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.6 Not only this, children also have the right to be raised in a society which protects legal and cultural institutions which maximize the possibility of them being raised by their biological parents. For this reason I am opposed to same-sex marriage being passed as law.

Something that has taken me by surprise as I have debated the issue of same-sex marriage is how quickly people label me as a “homophobe.” Quick background on me: I have never in my life felt any malice or any degree of hate for a homosexual person. I have had close association with some homosexual people in my life on sports teams, at work, at school, my neighbors, and within my own extended family. My association with them has always been exquisitely pleasant and I value their unique perspectives. Why then would I be labeled as a homophobe for pursuing peaceful discussion while taking the stance of defending marriage to be between a man and a woman? My conclusion is that the term homophobe is a potent deterrent to rational debate. Name-calling and scare tactics enable those unable to support their arguments otherwise to turn weak minds against their opponent. Thomas Sowell writes about this buzzword (homophobe) in The Vision of the Anointed: Self-congratulation as a Basis for Social Policy:

Writers who have written for years, or even decades, without ever mentioning homosexuals have been denounced for "homophobia" because they began to write about the subject after the AIDS epidemic appeared and did not take the "politically correct" position on the issues. How can someone have a "phobia" about something he has scarcely noticed? Many people never knew or cared what homosexuals were doing, until it became a danger to them as a result of the AIDS epidemic. Whether those people's reactions were right or wrong is something that can be debated. But attributing their position to a "phobia" is circular reasoning, when there is no evidence of any such phobia other than the position itself. Like so much in the vocabulary of the anointed, it is a way of avoiding substantive debate.
Among the writers who took non-"politically correct" positions on AIDS was the late Randy Shilts, whose best-selling book And the Band Played On is a chilling exploration of the political irresponsibility, based on fears of offending the organized gay lobby, that led to thousands of unnecessary deaths before the most elementary public health measures were taken to reduce the spread of AIDS. No doubt he too would have been called "homophobic" if he were not himself an avowed homosexual who later died of AIDS....7

Jeff Lindsey (an LDS member in Appleton, Wisconsin) wrote in his blog: “Homophobia is an epithet to stop argument. Name-calling can carry the day when reason and facts aren't with you. There certainly are bigots that need to be stopped - but the media and the gay lobby is quick to label anyone as homophobic who does not agree with their political agenda or with their lifestyle. But the issue of homosexuality needs thoughtful consideration and debate - not just name calling to force a politically correct decision.”

The idea of political correctness is an influential weapon gay-activists arm themselves with. I find the history of homosexuality in popular scientific thought to be particularly telling of the power this weapon yields. In 1973 the term homosexuality was removed from the official nomenclature of the DSM-II (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders). Such action would make one think this represents popular scientific thought on the matter right? Wrong. A poll taken in late 1977 of ten thousand Psychiatrists of the American Medical Association showed that 68 percent answered in the affirmative when asked "is homosexuality usually a pathological adaptation as opposed to a normal variation?" Again, in 1995 a poll of various psychiatric institutions revealed that a large majority of psychiatrists believe that homosexuality was a pathological adaptation. So if the scientific community decides to disavow homosexuality as a mental illness without research (or even popularity within the scientific community) to back it up why was this change made? Plain and simple: political correctness being pushed for by gay-activists. Political correctness trumps research. This reality was made clear when a group of researchers headed by Charles W. Socarides presented a report summarizing two years of research. They observed and unanimously documented the fact that exclusive homosexuality was a disorder of psychosexual development. At the end of this two year study, new members of the Executive Committee who ordered the study deemed their conclusions “not acceptable.” And so, good science is effectively filtered by gay-activists in the name of political correctness. I guess the same people who lament the far right trying to block evolution being taught in schools are guilty of a similar offense themselves.8

Many members of the LDS church who are supportive of same-sex marriages being legalized criticize the church for continuously choosing the wrong side of every political battle.9 They quickly make a comparison to blacks and the priesthood. I would respond with a question: is the church today the same as it was in the 70’s? The first presidency and quorum of the twelve is now saturated with PhD’s and expertise in various fields of study (this hasn’t always been the case). Are these men uneducated bigots? Is the idea that the church would stand up for marriage in order to suppress the rights of a minority group even fathomable to one with experience with the church? There must be more to the church’s stance than that which the church is continuously accused. I challenge anyone caught in a crisis of thought regarding this issue to study it out, trust our leaders and allow the facts to vindicate our position. How grateful I am that the church has stood up when called upon, proving to all that we are not ashamed of truth, and we will protect the family as the seedbed of civilization.

In my experience with members of the church who support same-sex marriage I have often heard them use Joseph Smith’s own words to validate their position. “I teach the people correct principles and they govern themselves” said Joseph Smith as cited by John Taylor.10 Focus is on the latter part of this quote, implying that the church must avoid infringing on others’ rights. Often reference is made to Satan’s plan in the pre-earth life equating these rights to agency. There are a few visible errors in this thinking. I don’t think this position represents a correct understanding of agency. In Heavenly Father’s established plan, agency is not something that can be taken away. People will always have the ability to act according to their own accord. Even if rules or laws are put in place, this in no way infringes upon one’s agency. “For the power is in them, wherein they are agents unto themselves.”11 This way of thinking also fails to acknowledge the first part of Joseph Smith’s words, to teach correct principles. The church has not really taken a political stand, it has taken a moral one. It has stood up for the family as being ordained by God and between one man and one woman. It is consistent with the churches long-time position, one which they have already made several proclamations to the world.12

1. Aristotle, supra n. 17, at Bk. I, ii.
2. Aristotle, Politics, in The Basic Words of Aristotle Bk. I, ii (Random House 1941).
3. Aquinas, supra n. 21 at Q. 41, A. 1.
4. Parke, M.; Are married parents really better for children? What research says about effects of family structure on child well-being (Policy Brief No. 3) Washington DC: center for law and social policy. 2003.
5. McLanahan, S.; Sandefur, G.D.; Growing up with a single parent: what hurts, what helps. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University. 1994.
6. The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child, Article 7.
7. The Vision of the Anointed: Self-congratulation as a Basis for Social Policy BasicBooks, New York, 1995, pp. 216 – 217



10. Journal of Discourses 10:57-58.

11. Doctrine and Covenants 58:28

12. For more on Agency see Dallin H. Oaks, Free Agency and Freedom, BYU Devotional and Fireside Speeches, 1987-88.

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Sunday, November 9, 2008

Lakers are 5-0!

Anybody following the NBA this year knows that the Lakers are going to prove something. Kobe will prove once and for all that he is heir to MJ, Pau will prove that given the right atmosphere he can be a premier player in the NBA, and Bynum will prove that he was indeed worth more than Jason Kidd. It will be a break-out year for Jordan Farmar, who will not only take Fisher's starting spot, but also be this years Jose Calderon in fantasy league. All this will be great, but the best feeling of all will be when we're drinking champagne at the end of the finals, giving Shaq something to rap about. Once again, it's feeling pretty good to be a Laker fan!

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Saturday, November 8, 2008

Debates on Hold

I have decided to put my debates about same-sex marriage on hold. I intent to do extensive research, collect data and the formulate a new opinion (or possibly stick with the same old one). Up to this point I have supported Prop 8 based on opinions of people I respect (namely my old room mate who is studying constitutional law and did his undergraduate work in Home and Family Living (HFL), and the LDS church). My religious beliefs and background bias me towards the "essentialist" mindset, but I will try and be as objective as possible. Thank you everyone who has helped up to this point in helping me understand the gravity of this topic.

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Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Civil Rights?

The election is over, but this issue is far from dead.

I just found this video put together to combat the comparison of same-sex marriage to civil rights.

I think Obama made a good (even though it's blatantly obvious) point when he said "there are a whole host of things that are civil rights, and then there are other things such as traditional marriage that express a communities concern and regard to a particular institution."

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Monday, November 3, 2008

This Is What I Have Been Trying To Say

From the Los Angeles Times


Protecting marriage to protect children

Marriage as a human institution is constantly evolving. But in all societies, marriage shapes the rights and obligations of parenthood.

By David Blankenhorn

September 19, 2008

I'm a liberal Democrat. And I do not favor same-sex marriage. Do those positions sound contradictory? To me, they fit together.

Many seem to believe that marriage is simply a private love relationship between two people. They accept this view, in part, because Americans have increasingly emphasized and come to value the intimate, emotional side of marriage, and in part because almost all opinion leaders today, from journalists to judges, strongly embrace this position. That's certainly the idea that underpinned the California Supreme Court's legalization of same-sex marriage.

But I spent a year studying the history and anthropology of marriage, and I've come to a different conclusion.

Marriage as a human institution is constantly evolving, and many of its features vary across groups and cultures. But there is one constant. In all societies, marriage shapes the rights and obligations of parenthood. Among us humans, the scholars report, marriage is not primarily a license to have sex. Nor is it primarily a license to receive benefits or social recognition. It is primarily a license to have children.

In this sense, marriage is a gift that society bestows on its next generation. Marriage (and only marriage) unites the three core dimensions of parenthood -- biological, social and legal -- into one pro-child form: the married couple. Marriage says to a child: The man and the woman whose sexual union made you will also be there to love and raise you. Marriage says to society as a whole: For every child born, there is a recognized mother and a father, accountable to the child and to each other.

These days, because of the gay marriage debate, one can be sent to bed without supper for saying such things. But until very recently, almost no one denied this core fact about marriage. Summing up the cross-cultural evidence, the anthropologist Helen Fisher in 1992 put it simply: "People wed primarily to reproduce." The philosopher and Nobel laureate Bertrand Russell, certainly no friend of conventional sexual morality, was only repeating the obvious a few decades earlier when he concluded that "it is through children alone that sexual relations become important to society, and worthy to be taken cognizance of by a legal institution."

Marriage is society's most pro-child institution. In 2002 -- just moments before it became highly unfashionable to say so -- a team of researchers from Child Trends, a nonpartisan research center, reported that "family structure clearly matters for children, and the family structure that helps children the most is a family headed by two biological parents in a low-conflict marriage."

All our scholarly instruments seem to agree: For healthy development, what a child needs more than anything else is the mother and father who together made the child, who love the child and love each other.

For these reasons, children have the right, insofar as society can make it possible, to know and to be cared for by the two parents who brought them into this world. The foundational human rights document in the world today regarding children, the 1989 U.N. Convention on the Rights of the Child, specifically guarantees children this right. The last time I checked, liberals like me were supposed to be in favor of internationally recognized human rights, particularly concerning children, who are typically society's most voiceless and vulnerable group. Or have I now said something I shouldn't?

Every child being raised by gay or lesbian couples will be denied his birthright to both parents who made him. Every single one. Moreover, losing that right will not be a consequence of something that at least most of us view as tragic, such as a marriage that didn't last, or an unexpected pregnancy where the father-to-be has no intention of sticking around. On the contrary, in the case of same-sex marriage and the children of those unions, it will be explained to everyone, including the children, that something wonderful has happened!

For me, what we are encouraged or permitted to say, or not say, to one another about what our society owes its children is crucially important in the debate over initiatives like California's Proposition 8, which would reinstate marriage's customary man-woman form. Do you think that every child deserves his mother and father, with adoption available for those children whose natural parents cannot care for them? Do you suspect that fathers and mothers are different from one another? Do you imagine that biological ties matter to children? How many parents per child is best? Do you think that "two" is a better answer than one, three, four or whatever? If you do, be careful. In making the case for same-sex marriage, more than a few grown-ups will be quite willing to question your integrity and goodwill. Children, of course, are rarely consulted.

The liberal philosopher Isaiah Berlin famously argued that, in many cases, the real conflict we face is not good versus bad but good versus good. Reducing homophobia is good. Protecting the birthright of the child is good. How should we reason together as a society when these two good things conflict?

Here is my reasoning. I reject homophobia and believe in the equal dignity of gay and lesbian love. Because I also believe with all my heart in the right of the child to the mother and father who made her, I believe that we as a society should seek to maintain and to strengthen the only human institution -- marriage -- that is specifically intended to safeguard that right and make it real for our children.

Legalized same-sex marriage almost certainly benefits those same-sex couples who choose to marry, as well as the children being raised in those homes. But changing the meaning of marriage to accommodate homosexual orientation further and perhaps definitively undermines for all of us the very thing -- the gift, the birthright -- that is marriage's most distinctive contribution to human society. That's a change that, in the final analysis, I cannot support.

David Blankenhorn is president of the New York-based Institute for American Values and the author of "The Future of Marriage."

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Sunday, November 2, 2008

New Clint Eastwood Movie is About Hmongers!

I dunno if this movie looks good, but I'm positive that was a paj ntaub (hmong story clothe) hanging up in that old lady's house. I'll go see it :-)

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